If a Trauma incident (such as theft, abuse, violence, loss in stock, etc.) happens to anyone, then the victim goes into depression. Due to this happiness disappears from their life. It is also called PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder).
But by reading this book, you will know how to overcome Trauma. And how can you live a happy life again?
Antidepressants Are Not Enough
Many psychologists give anti-depressants (medicine) to patients with depression. Due to this, the people of the society feel that medicine is going on, and now the victim will be cured automatically.
But the author says that despite the medicine, society should keep giving moral support to the depressed person.
Such language should be used which gives new inspiration to the person living with depression. Some people get scolded for trying to explain. Don't ever do this.
Apart from this, a person with trauma or depression should try to lead a normal life. You should keep yourself busy by doing some small tasks. One should keep doing yoga, meditation, exercise, etc. And don't keep yourself alone.
Our Understanding of Trauma
If there is a painful incident in someone's past, then it is remembered for a long time in the mind of the victim.
Later on, Victim starts remembering him again and again. And due to this, they are not able to lead a normal life. They start having anxiety, stress and depression.
Fear settles in their subconscious mind. They are unable to differentiate between reality and imagination. They see bad things in their imagination and feel that it is happening to them in real. Because of this, they are terribly scared every moment.
At the same time dissociation arises. They are unable to trust the people of the society victims. And start feeling lonely and helpless. They feel that danger is the only danger in their life. And at any time, anyone will do the same thing to them again.
Therefore any psychologist should pay attention to these symptoms of a person going through trauma. And such thought patterns should be understood. Then in changing society these thought patterns of Victim the sould help. So that he comes back to reality again. And can associate with family and society
Trauma Affects Relationships
Trauma can also have a bad effect on a person's relationships. Victim The victim of Trauma remains in depression and gradually he also gets used to alcohol or cigarettes etc.
He doesn't trust anyone. And don't tell anyone what's on your mind. He feels that others will be happy with his sorrow. At times, he also feels himself responsible for the bad incident that happened to him.
Due to all this, his friends and lovers, etc. start getting away from him. They do not understand his behavior. They think he is becoming a bad guy.
Because he is not even happy, so people start getting away from such a person. Due to this, instead of improving the situation of the Trauma Victim, it starts getting worse.
Therapy Can Treat Trauma
Trauma can be treated with therapy. Actually, whenever there is any danger in front of us, both our body and brain come in fight or flight mode. Which means to fight or run away.
But even after going through Trauma, the fight or flight mode remains in such people. However, there was no danger. In such a situation, that person sometimes feels angry and sometimes nervous. And because of this, he is always distracted.
Therefore, every Trauma Victim should get therapy done by a good psychologist in time.
Trauma can be reduced to a great extent with a technique called EMDR (eye movement desensitization and reprocessing). Only a Therapist can do this well.
Keep Taking Action
Due to trauma, stress hormones are always released in our blocks. Which block the prefrontal cortex of our brain. This part helps us in decision-making bodies and thinking.
But when blocked, our brain stops thinking properly.
Apart from this, the amygdala and limbic system start working at full speed. whereby the victim
The storm of emotions keeps rising.
Such a person will seem normal from the A brain outside to the viewer. But from inside he is so unstable that one can take a wrong step in passion.
Brain scan has shown that if a person with trauma continues to do some action, then his brain will start working properly.
The easiest task is yoga and meditation. Such a person should meditate on God or divine power by closing his eyes. Should remember such memories when he was extremely happy. When he had achieved something.
This will stop the release of stress hormones inside him and he will be able to keep the brain in a normal stage to some extent. It may take time. But have to keep trying.Apart from this, reading self help books can also give a lot of benefits. Because it makes the mind busy. And the bad incident diverts his attention. New knowledge is always to be gained.
Mindfulness Helps
The Victim of Trauma is often not mindful. That is, many of its responses become automatic. And he cannot apply logic.
Like being scared of loud noises, scared to even sit alone, etc. He feels that the incident is still happening to him.
Therefore the therapist should teach him mindfulness. He should be explained that instead of living in the past, think about the future.
You should ask, where will you be after 5 years from today? This will help the victim to think about what his future will really be like. Will he always be worried even after five years? Or will move ahead on the basis of his talent.
It should help in making his goal. Like he can set up a restaurant. It can give jobs to needy people. By earning a lot of money, one can take a house, car etc. for himself. Can do charity or social service.
In this way Victim will have a goal, then new hope will also awaken in his heart. Friends, if you yourself are going through a trauma, then take care of yourself with the help of all this.
Childhood Trauma Damages Personality
Children who have to face any kind of abuse in childhood, it has a bad effect on their brain.
Such children are less kind in the future. In them the psychology of criminal becomes.
Because they lose their trust in others. And always be in offensive mode. They think society probably works like this. They think that just as others have hurt them, they must do the same. They take it as a law of living.
With this kind of thinking, even the development of children is not possible. They are also not good at studies.
Therefore, there should be therapy or counseling of the child who has been a victim of abuse in time. With this, the thinking of that child can be made positive again. And he can lead a normal life again.
Memories Of Trauma Are Disorganized
Our positive memories have a proper structure. Like a story, every memory has a beginning, middle and end.
In contrast, memories with trauma have no structure. Such memory often comes like flashes in Victim's mind. Due to this Victim's brain considers it a danger. And stress hormones start coming out in it. Due to which many negative emotions start coming inside him.
Either he tries to harm himself or thinks of harming the other.
Try to remove these memories from the mind. The victim should talk to his subconscious brain. And it should be said that all this is an incident of the past. And I'm slowly forgetting it.
At the same time, God should be thanked that his life is safe. Because the victim of losing trust will only suffer.
Also think that the people of Ukraine must have seen too much Trauma. But it should be taken as a reference only. Because everyone's pain is pain. But with such thinking, you should try to reduce your pain.
Balance Emotions With Rational Thoughts
Your emotions should be analyzed on the basis of logic.
Victim should think that what was meant to be bad has happened. And by remembering him again and again stress hormones will come out in my body. Which will increase depression.
Instead, you should take the help of positive affirmations and keep saying to yourself –
- I'm trying again and slowly returning to a happy life.
- Even if the branches of a tree are cut, it grows again. I will also bounce back again.
- Whatever happened in my past, but I will make my future with my own hands.
- Good and bad seasons keep coming in life. And bad times don't last forever. After night there is morning.
This kind of thinking can cause Victims to try to heal themselvesself-help from the pain and trauma.
The Distraction Technique
Trauma also affects Victim more because Victim keeps on remembering that event again and again. And then gets angry or regrets.
But for this always Distraction Technique should be applied. Which means that as soon as bad thoughts come, you distract the brain in some way.
Sing a song Exercise. Talk to a friend. Read a self help book like this blog
But you will get it.
Just make it a rule that even once a day you will not even think about Trauma. Rather, keep speaking positive affirmations and keep negative thoughts away from distraction techniques.
After some time, you yourself will start forgetting those incidents.
Also, definitely use self-compassion. Which means love yourself. You are not at all responsible for what happened to you.
Whoever you are - fair, dark, pale, fat, short, tall, etc. - just accept yourself. love yourself Because no one can replace you. Only you can help your family. Also, no one eats on demand from anyone. Rather people earn their living by working hard themselves.
Always remember this earth belongs to everyone. And the sunlight is also for everyone. So never consider yourself inferior. Rather keep loving yourself.
Final Words
The Body Keeps the Score is an overview of the relationship between our bodies and our minds. Van der Kolk uses his years of experience researching, diagnosing and treating PTSD to provide guidance on the strong relationship between trauma and our bodies. This challenges the common belief that drugs are the cure for traumatic experiences. The alternative is to better understand how trauma affects our minds and bodies, and how we can change the way we process this information.- Print Length: 464 Pages
- Language: English
- Publisher: Penguin Publishing Group
- Genre: Health and Nutrition
